Tuesday, August 05, 2008

Boldness to do the opposite

While we were preparing for the big birthday party last weekend I observed Qavah crawling into her rocking chair with her blanket and pacifier a time or two. I also noticed her raising her arms up, asking to be held whenever she wanted to go upstairs. A quick look at the calendar led me to the conclusion that first thing Monday morning I would need to take her for labs. I did that and got a call later in the day from the pediatric hematology department with an appointment for a transfusion. I am learning to read the signs of a low red cell count and that helps me respond with more confidence. It had only been four weeks since the last transfusion but Qavah was in need of another one and the signs were there. Qavah took it all in stride.

Sometimes in life we are given an opportunity to observe the way someone else lives and we can choose to do the opposite. Not to judge another, but to make a judgment based on the desire for a better outcome. An example of that was seen Monday at the lab where Qavah goes for her blood draws. A little girl about a year or so older than Qavah was waiting ahead of us for her tests. When her name was called she walked through the lab door and began screaming before the door shut. The little girl had four adults holding her down while she screamed as though her toe nails were being ripped out. Kathryn and I didn't have much sympathy for her because her high drama was traumatizing the next patient; Qavah. Qavah looked at me aghast and I started laughing, which made her laugh! Then Kathryn joined in and we could not stop. I was glad we were the only ones left in the waiting room. The screaming was over-the-top even for a drama queen. Qavah soon started shaking her head saying, "She's not brave!" Then we laughed even harder since that was an understatement. When the door to the lab opened I expected to see a poor tortured soul emerge. Instead, the same little girl skipped out of the door asking her mother if she could push the button for the elevator, while the four nurses left behind looked like they needed the rest of the day off.

Qavah looked puzzled by that, but she was next so I smiled at her and said, "Go in there and show the nurses how a brave girl gives blood!" After what she had just witnessed she put her little shoulders back, marched in, and held out her arm without flinching. It was over in seconds without a whimper and she received high praise and a lot of stickers. Qavah told me today on the way to the hospital that she was going to be brave whenever she gets "stuck" and she was true to her word when her IV line was placed.

You've probably heard the phrase, "observe the masses and do the opposite." Sometimes it just takes one little observation in the handling of a daily event to be able to state, "This is how I will handle it!" Qavah did that. Now it is up to us to teach her about Who it is that gave her the strength and wisdom to make such a good decision.